Start Taking dating slow

Taking dating slow

Obviously, he’s probably not going to say, “sorry girl, I’m still dreaming of my ex,” so instead he’s going to tell you he wants to “take things slow.” “I have told a girl I wanted to take it slow once when I had just gotten out of a serious relationship and was only ready for an ill-advised and totally mentally unhealthy rebound,” said Reddit user Jack PAnderson.

It’s easy to hate on guys that do this, because it seems like they think coming into contact with their dick makes you undatable.

But as someone who also experiences this, I can attest to the fact that it’s a real thing and maybe not as misogynistic as it seems. “I figured out a while ago that if I sleep with a girl too fast, I just never form the right kind of bond with her,” said Reddit user Jaron K.

It doesn’t matter how great you are, he’s not going to see you any differently. “I’ve done this before,” said Reddit user Diablo165. “I told a girl that [I wanted to take things slow] after I had just gotten dumped and my self-esteem was completely shot down by an ex,” said Reddit user captainfrobie.

“I didn’t know her well, and she liked to dive into stuff… “There’s perfectly legitimate reasons, and I wouldn’t really pry unless he offers up an explanation himself.” Obvi, anything a guy says that’s sus, this is the first suspicion. If you’ve already gotten physical and he mutters some shit about “taking it slow,” he means relationship-wise, not sex-wise (clearly).

More often than not, they actually just have performance issues – like whiskey dick, but maybe without the whiskey – that they don’t want you to know about until it’s too late and you’re already semi-attached. “I’m bad at sex and she can’t know until it’s too late,” said Reddit user Real Post All True.

When you’re just out of one relationship, chances are you don’t want to get right into another one – even if your new bae is super chill.

Maybe keep him at arm’s length until he’s had time to mourn.