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Fear of dating

Before Larry, I had never experienced the kind of love that made me feel safe, cared for and special. To have that man who works hard every day to make you happy. Was it worth the hassle of putting together a profile, answering some emails, going on a bunch of dates, feeling broken hearted a couple times and dealing with a few jerks along the way? Well, I’m here to ask you…no, to tell you…that it’s time to get real about the risk vs.

When these fabulous women come to me for support, most admit that they are scared of dating. These strong, magnificent women have been through a horrible experience, yet they have far less hesitation about putting themselves out there.

And it seems she’s found that spectacular love she was missing. When I turned about 45, I felt so sick of being single! Two years later, in 2006, I met and married my husband. Larry and I have been married for 9 years as I write this. We truly know each other, and we really like each other.

During my 30 years of dating I never experienced grownup love. I knew I wanted a partner to spend the rest of my life with and I committed to do whatever was within my power to find him. I went into therapy (before life coaches were popular), learned about men, got help getting online, consciously and bravely worked on myself…and kept my eyes on the prize. For all those single years, the risks of dating seemed far greater than the rewards. If you’re like I was, and having trouble imagining what grownup love (the reward) looks like, here are just some examples: I love being part of a couple – more than I even thought I would.

They are just as afraid of getting rejected, being hurt or possibly even not meeting another man to love.