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Divorced parent starts dating

A dad we know recently mentioned that a friend’s children are dealing with their parents’ divorce, as well as the new relationships each of the parents is striking up.

“You may not feel like you have to get their permission, but remember, how they react to this person could affect how the kids react,” she said.

If you’d like more information about stepfamilies, Blackwell has a Web site, and will teach a class on “Establishing a Strong Stepfamily” from 9 a.m.

Preschoolers and grade schoolers may not show much interest in your love life.

Tweens and teens are more of a challenge because they’re coping with puberty: “They don't want to think about their parents’ sexuality,” Blackwell said.

The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.

When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.

She added that it’s fine to talk with your kids about how you hope they’ll like your new partner, while recognizing that they might not right away.

And it’s important to tell your kids that you’re not bringing this person in to replace the other parent.

She advises against having a new boyfriend or girlfriend spend the night when older children are present.

For children of all ages, it’s important for parents to provide them with the opportunity to “grieve the loss of the family,” Blackwell said.

“It’s a matter of slowly adding together your new interest and your children,” she said.